Thomas has become like a big brother I’ve never had. He has seen me at the start of a traumatic life event and slowly turn into a better man, with his help. He always respects me and doesn’t judge but will speak his mind. He is full of wisdom and is a gentle soul. I’m proud to call him a friend.
Thomas Wilder, LCMHC
Experienced mental health professional
Provides online counseling through BetterHelp
At a glance
Thomas is an experienced, licensed Mental Health Professional who specializes in affordable online therapy offered through our partner, BetterHelp.
- 5.0 stars
- Clients are very satisfied with Thomas. View 10 reviews
- Speaks English
- Offers Telehealth visits
- Licensed in North Carolina
Recent reviews
I don’t think words can do justice as to how much Thomas has helped and guided me to achieve a much more balanced and healthy life. I, like many, struggled with the idea of starting therapy, but the second I met Thomas I felt as if I was talking to an old friend. The way Thomas works is to allow you the freedom to make your own decisions, but whe prepares you to make those decisions in a healthy way. To give perspective to anyone reading this - I had the worst year of my life and Thomas stuck with me through the entire year and now I am the happiest I have ever been. I implore anyone to meet with Thomas and begin your journey to fulfillment, individuation, and inner peace. My only regret is not meeting him earlier, but as he has taught me, things happen as they should and we just always be thankful for the challenges we are provided.
More about Thomas
- 4 years' experience
- Male
- LCMHC
Recovery is a long and soulful process. Finding a counselor with whom to collaborate on your personalized journey to a more whole and independent life is like a hero who needs a good sidekick. If you choose to work with me on your recovery and healing journey I will be a faithful sidekick and you will be the hero of your story. I will encourage you, give you feedback, share hard truths with you, maybe even confront you, give you sage counsel, and essentially be part of your tribe. But like every hero's journey, at the end you will have to face your fears without me. But you will have changed, grown, become larger than your anxieties, rewritten your story by replacing words of doubt, pain and languish with words that more accurately and compassionately represent you and the growth you have worked so hard for.
I am a psychotherapist here in the mountains of North Carolina. Since I graduated from Montreat College I have achieved full licensure (LCMHC) and I have almost completed my Licensed Substance Abuse Counselor (LSAC-A). For the past 3 years I have worked in a recovery based, person-centered therapeutic community with incredible individuals who suffer from major mental health challenges and in some cases addictions as well. Empathy, warmth, humor and confrontation are my strong suits in the therapeutic relationship. My specialty is in treating disorders of overcontrol. As in, so much self-control it gets in the way of expressing yourself, or gets in the way of living a meaningful life. Maladaptive perfectionism falls into this category, along with all-or-nothing thinking, resistance to feedback, loneliness, anxiety, treatment resistant depression and OCD. My preferred modality is Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy, I also use Narrative Therapy, Eco Therapy, Existential Therapy and I do Brainspotting, Natural Flow EMDR, and mindfulness. I would be honored to get to know you.
May your recovery be profound, may your recovery lead to wholeness, may your recovery sustain.
Respectfully, Thomas Wilder MA, NCC, LCMHC, LSAC-A
Specialties
Stress
Anxiety
Addictions
Self esteem
Family conflicts
Trauma and abuse
Grief
Intimacy-related issues
Sleeping disorders
Anger management
Career difficulties
Bipolar disorder
Depression
Coping with life changes
Abandonment
Attachment issues
Autism and Asperger Syndrome
Codependency
Commitment issues
Control issues
Dependent personality
Dissociation
Drug and alcohol addiction
Eating and food-related issues
Emptiness
Family problems
Fatherhood issues
First responder issues
Forgiveness
Guilt and shame
Hoarding
Isolation / loneliness
Jealousy
Life purpose
Men's issues
Midlife crisis
Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
Panic disorder and panic attacks
Personality disorders
Post-traumatic stress
Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
Self-love
Sex addiction
Sexual dysfunction
Social anxiety and phobia
Young adult issues
Treatment Approaches
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Existential Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
Licenses
Thomas Wilder's National Provider Identifier (NPI) is 1720735707.
- LCMHC · North Carolina · 14474 · Expires June 2026
About online counseling
- Affordable.
- Pay a low flat fee.
- Convenient.
- Do it at your own time and at your own pace. Communicate whenever you feel it's needed.
- Available now.
- There is no waiting list and no calls to make. Simply fill out a short questionnaire and send your first message.
Online counseling allows you to receive care from a mental health practitioner via phone, video chat, or instant messaging. It is convenient for those who may have trouble getting to or would prefer not to have in-person therapy appointments. Starting at $65 per week, online counseling is generally more affordable than in-person counseling. A study by researchers at University of California, Berkeley found that online counseling can be just as effective as face-to-face therapy while being more convenient, affordable, and accessible.
Reviews for Thomas Wilder
All reviews have been submitted by clients after seeing the provider.
Overall rating:
Thomas has become like a big brother I’ve never had. He has seen me at the start of a traumatic life event and slowly turn into a better man, with his help. He always respects me and doesn’t judge but will speak his mind. He is full of wisdom and is a gentle soul. I’m proud to call him a friend.
I don’t think words can do justice as to how much Thomas has helped and guided me to achieve a much more balanced and healthy life. I, like many, struggled with the idea of starting therapy, but the second I met Thomas I felt as if I was talking to an old friend. The way Thomas works is to allow you the freedom to make your own decisions, but whe prepares you to make those decisions in a healthy way. To give perspective to anyone reading this - I had the worst year of my life and Thomas stuck with me through the entire year and now I am the happiest I have ever been. I implore anyone to meet with Thomas and begin your journey to fulfillment, individuation, and inner peace. My only regret is not meeting him earlier, but as he has taught me, things happen as they should and we just always be thankful for the challenges we are provided.
Due to a traumatic experience in my personal life, I sought out therapy for the first time. I was nervous and scared about going outside of my comfort zone. My fears were soon washed away after meeting Thomas and discussing my burdens. Thomas allows me to express myself without judgement and helps me find the root cause of my actions. Thomas has helped me keep my chin up when I feel like everything around me is falling apart. I appreciate Thomas for being my sidekick and helping me walk the path to be the hero of my own story.
I literally recommend Better Help to anyone and everyone. Wether you’re experiencing a high or low, we all deserve emotional maintenance and/or growth. Thomas has helped me immensely along my path. I couldn’t recommend him or BetterHelp more highly!
Changing my life one session at a time.
I have been working with Thomas on a variety of life issues for over a month now. He has played a key role in helping me to grieve, process, and grow as a person. He makes me feel heard, offers great advice and wisdom, and he has helped me in a profound way. He was a perfect fit for my first time trying therapy. I cannot recommend him enough.
Thomas has been great to work with. He listens without judgement, and offers support anytime he can.
Having Mr. Wilder in your pocket is no small blessing…..kind, funny, wise and present. We move toward the light together and for that I am grateful.
Thomas is one of the best therapists I've ever had the pleasure to converse with. He helps you as an old sage would with wisdom that is not told or forced upon you, instead it assists in the person with introspection and inquiry into prospectives they never would have imagined. If you are looking for someone that understands the universe, the unconscious and philosophy as a whole then please try him out. He will challenge you in ways you may not expect.
Thomas wilder has been great in understanding my needs and helping set up goals. He has great energy and makes me feel very comfortable expressing myself. Hoping to continue working with him during this journey.
Frequently asked questions
Does Thomas Wilder offer telehealth visits?
Yes. Thomas Wilder works with clients by exchanging messages, chatting live, speaking over the phone, or video conferencing based on what works for the client at that particular time.
What language(s) does Thomas Wilder speak?
Thomas Wilder speaks English.
How many years of experience does Thomas Wilder have?
Thomas Wilder has 4 years of experience.
Where is Thomas Wilder licensed to practice?
Thomas Wilder is licensed to practice in North Carolina.
Does Thomas Wilder accept clients outside of the United States?
No, Thomas Wilder does not accept clients outside of the United States.
Is online therapy as effective as in-person therapy?
Numerous studies support the effectiveness of online platforms in facilitating life changes. For instance, research published by JMIR Publications, conducted by teams from the University of Berkeley, UCSF, and SF General Hospital, found that "users of BetterHelp experienced significantly reduced depression symptom severity after engaging with the platform."
What treatment approaches does Thomas Wilder offer?
Thomas Wilder offers clients Client-Centered Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and Somatic Therapy.
How can I communicate with Thomas Wilder?
Thomas Wilder can be engaged in any one of four ways: (1) Exchanging messages, (2) chatting live, (3) speaking over the phone, or (4) video conferencing. You can use different ways at different times as you wish, based on your needs, availability, and convenience.
How do I get started with Thomas Wilder?
Just tap the CHAT NOW button or tap here: A new window will open and you'll be directed to a simple form that will help start the conversation. Please note: It can take up to a few days to be matched to a therapist.
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When you tap CHAT NOW a new window will open and you'll be directed to a simple form that will help start the conversation. Please note: It can take up to a few days to be matched to a therapist.