Very supportive and been a god send for me. Can’t thank toby enough, good man.
Toby Messer, NCPS
Experienced mental health professional
Provides online counseling through BetterHelp
At a glance
Toby is an experienced, licensed Mental Health Professional who specializes in affordable online therapy offered through our partner, BetterHelp.
- 4.5 stars
- Clients are very satisfied with Toby. View 6 reviews
- Speaks English
- Offers Telehealth visits
- Licensed in United Kingdom
- Accepts worldwide clients
Recent reviews
A very patient professional, while listening to my description, he offers his professional advice in a precise and concise manner. He could spot what is the key immediately during the discussions. I have got the professional support I needed, and I have learned during the sessions with him. Thank you Doctor.
More about Toby
- 11 years' experience
- Male
- NCPS
My name is Toby, and I am a solution-focused and analytical psychotherapist. I centre my work on understanding the root of our behaviour and emotions while striving to facilitate active and meaningful change in the present. By integrating behavioural approaches such as CBT, REBT, DBT, and others with the depth of more analytical approaches like psychodynamic and analytical methods, I can work in a more effective and long-lasting way.
Specialties
Stress
Anxiety
Relationship issues
Grief
Self esteem
Depression
Addictions
LGBT
Family conflicts
Trauma and abuse
Intimacy-related issues
Eating disorders
Sleeping disorders
Parenting issues
Anger management
Career difficulties
Bipolar disorder
Coping with life changes
Coaching
Compassion fatigue
ADHD
Abandonment
Aging and geriatric issues
Antisocial personality
Attachment issues
BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
Blended family issues
Body image
Cancer
Caregiver issues and stress
Chronic pain, illness, and disability
Codependency
Commitment issues
Communication problems
Control issues
Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
Dependent personality
Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
Dissociation
Divorce and separation
Domestic violence
Drug and alcohol addiction
Eating and food-related issues
Emptiness
Family of origin issues
Family problems
Fatherhood issues
Fertility issues
First responder issues
Forgiveness
Gender dysphoria
Guilt and shame
Hoarding
Hospice and end-of-life counseling
Impulsivity
Infidelity
Isolation / loneliness
Jealousy
Life purpose
Men's issues
Midlife crisis
Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
Money and financial issues
Mood disorders
Multicultural concerns
Narcissism
Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
Panic disorder and panic attacks
Paranoia
Personality disorders
Phobias
Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
Postpartum depression
Post-traumatic stress
Pregnancy and childbirth
Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Self-harm
Self-love
Sex addiction
Sexual assault and abuse
Sexual dysfunction
Sexuality
Social anxiety and phobia
Trichotillomania
Workplace issues
Young adult issues
Treatment Approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Existential Therapy
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
Licenses
- NCPS · United Kingdom · NCS15-01812 · Expires August 2025
About online counseling
- Affordable.
- Pay a low flat fee.
- Convenient.
- Do it at your own time and at your own pace. Communicate whenever you feel it's needed.
- Available now.
- There is no waiting list and no calls to make. Simply fill out a short questionnaire and send your first message.
Online counseling, also known as teletherapy, is a method of delivering mental health services through digital means such as video conferencing, phone calls, or messaging platforms. It can be an ideal option for individuals who have difficulty accessing traditional therapy due to geographical distance, time constraints, or personal preferences like privacy and comfort. Many people find it easier to open up from the familiarity of their own space.
Teletherapy has been found to be highly effective, with studies showing that it can produce similar outcomes to in-person therapy, particularly for issues like anxiety, depression, and PTSD. The flexibility and accessibility it offers make it a valuable alternative to conventional therapy settings.
Reviews for Toby Messer
All reviews have been submitted by clients after seeing the provider.
Overall rating:
Very supportive and been a god send for me. Can’t thank toby enough, good man.
A very patient professional, while listening to my description, he offers his professional advice in a precise and concise manner. He could spot what is the key immediately during the discussions. I have got the professional support I needed, and I have learned during the sessions with him. Thank you Doctor.
Toby is exactly the therapist I need. Challenges me and helps me organize my thoughts in a safe relaxed way.
In my limited time, Toby has been welcoming , understanding , and supportive of me. Already highlighting key areas that will help me, within only 2 sessions. Would recommend.
He is phenomenal. He knows how to get me to answer questions that I normally wouldn’t
So far I've had just a couple of sessions with Toby, but I've already learned so much about myself and how to act on this, I feel empowered and really optimistic!
Frequently asked questions
Does Toby Messer offer telehealth visits?
Yes. Toby Messer works with clients by exchanging messages, chatting live, speaking over the phone, or video conferencing based on what works for the client at that particular time.
What language(s) does Toby Messer speak?
Toby Messer speaks English.
How many years of experience does Toby Messer have?
Toby Messer has 11 years of experience.
Where is Toby Messer licensed to practice?
Toby Messer is licensed to practice in the United Kingdom.
Does Toby Messer accept clients outside of the United Kingdom?
Yes, Toby Messer accepts clients outside of the United Kingdom.
Is online therapy as effective as in-person therapy?
Numerous studies support the effectiveness of online platforms in facilitating life changes. For instance, research published by JMIR Publications, conducted by teams from the University of Berkeley, UCSF, and SF General Hospital, found that "users of BetterHelp experienced significantly reduced depression symptom severity after engaging with the platform."
What treatment approaches does Toby Messer offer?
Toby Messer offers clients Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and Trauma-Focused Therapy.
How can I communicate with Toby Messer?
Toby Messer can be engaged in any one of four ways: (1) Exchanging messages, (2) chatting live, (3) speaking over the phone, or (4) video conferencing. You can use different ways at different times as you wish, based on your needs, availability, and convenience.
How do I get started with Toby Messer?
Just tap the CHAT NOW button or tap here: A new window will open and you'll be directed to a simple form that will help start the conversation. Please note: It can take up to a few days to be matched to a therapist.
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When you tap CHAT NOW a new window will open and you'll be directed to a simple form that will help start the conversation. Please note: It can take up to a few days to be matched to a therapist.